ANGER DECISIONS..HOW TO CONTROL ANGER ?

Anger is a common human emotion. The world and its changing nature has increased the level of anger, has diversified the reasons causing anger.. all in all making the emotion more common. The world we know today is full of frustration which breeds anger. Well, this change is not a welcome change at all.

Happiness today has become a virtue. Today psychologists advise patients to fake happiness in order to cure depression. Fake smile is replacing real smile very fast. And in future too the prospects do not seem promising.

Let's come to anger or rage. If you have gone through my previous blogs you must have noticed I have mentioned about the increasing responsibilities on humans. In ancient times we only had to care about feeding ourselves. But today feeding has a whole new meaning. We can not just go into the forest and collect our own food. We have to work, earn money and then buy our food. And this endless cycle continues till we die.

Increasing population has put pressure on resources. This has increased competition. In this competition only few come out with flying colours and enough money to buy food. All the remaining get their share of failure, guilt, frustration which slowly grows into anger.

The above is the most common cause of anger but it is not the only cause. Apart from economic scenarios, there are social scenarios too that breed anger. This anger can lead to self hurt or one can end up hurting others.

Anger decisions are those solutions to problems that pop up in the mind of angry individuals who are going through hard times. The mental situation of these people does not allow them to analyse the solution/ option that has come before them before going ahead. They just act on it immediately.

The decisions taken in rage are never correct. The solution that seemed appropriate during that moment ends up complicating things even more. Thus it is always advisable not to take any important decision when you are angry. Future outcomes of each action should be taken into consideration before going ahead. All this can only be possible with a practical mind, one which angry people lack. 

Violence, social unrest, terrorism, and all other social and economic evils have their origin inside the minds of angry people who have been completely blinded by rage. They do not think and thus get sucked in by rage. They end up in messy, very messy places.

The only way out of this is by mastering one's emotions. We have to control our emotions and never let emotions get hold of us. Be it happiness or anger, our mind should be calm and deal with both the situations keeping a practical mindset.

Writing down the cause of our anger on a piece of paper can help. This can help us think of solutions that are practical and non-damaging. The time invested in doing this will help our mind calm down and also sooth our racing nerves. This simple step can prevent us from getting washed away by our anger and hence can protect us from anger decisions that would have been immensely damaging both to us and the society.

 Our world has been built by great minds. Minds that were stable. People who control their emotions, can never be hurt. They are socially immune. Situations can never change their peace of mind and their sense of purpose. Because peace of mind to them is a choice and they chose it whatever their surroundings may be. To achieve that we have to let go of anger. This is the true sense of being enlightened. From that point on happiness begins because happiness is no longer dependant on our surroundings rather it becomes a choice. And we chose it over everything every time.         

CONNECTING THE DOTS..

Moving forward is the essence of living. There is no place for stagnant mindset in this fast changing world. Same is true for our actions. We need to level up ourselves to keep up with the trend that is always very dynamic. These actions, however small they may seem, have deep impacts in the long run. We all have known about the existence of multiple dimensions. They all are similar but the smallest of the choices make them different. Thus we have been well taught about the importance of actions by space thriller movies like Interstellar.

In our daily life we come across many stimuli and situations. For the stimulus we react as per our subconscious mind. The situations are important because our conscious mind has to decide the future action. In such cases there are many possible choices but we choose one as per our knowledge, intuition, suggestion etc. At that very moment the problem is solved and we are liberated. But the impact of our choice is seen much later on in time. Every possible solution has its own long term implications. Choices made keeping in mind the long term implications are always the best choices. But in reality we can often predict the long term path of our action. Thus we almost every time have blind solutions based on our intuition. Well, many may argue that intuition is the guiding light of the angels but we can know that only when that particular decision turns out to be something heavenly.

Everyone who is reading this blog has had reached a certain position in life. If they look back and concentrate on their past actions and find that one particular choice which had played the largest role is moulding them as they are today. We call them turning points of life. These turning points are nothing but problem solution situations. The solution if results into something good in the long term we keep them as examples. But if they turned out to be negative in long run, we regret. Past cannot be changed. It is also true that in future we will have to face many such life changing problems and find a feasible solution. We will never be sure of the long term implications. But what we can do is take a well informed decision. Even if that turns out to be bad in the long run, we should have the courage to decide. Courage to take action and courage to take responsibility if it goes south are important life skills. These skills can never be taught. They are embedded in the personality and moulded by life itself.

Everything in our life has been because of our choices. The humans have become the supreme creatures on this planet because they have been gifted with higher intellect which enable them to innovate and take informed decisions to change their life. We all have done it. We are alive because we are doing it this very moment. Connecting the dots by looking back reveals to us the larger picture which we often neglect while going on with our daily lives.  Looking back makes us humble because we get to face the reality. The stars who loose themselves in the stardom can look back on to their struggling days. In those days they will find their turning point moments. This very realisation that hard work pays its rewards will be enough for anyone to remain grounded and keep their head down. However busy our lives may seem, we must look back and find our moment. The moment that defines who we are. Being able to connect the dots is a super power because we get transformed into our higher self as well as gain wisdom for life from life itself..

POWER OVER LIFE..

Turmoil is the reality of life. Life is full of challenges and struggles leading to a destination we all seek. These times of turmoil are the best teachers we have. They are patient and leave us be only when we have grasped the truth it wanted to teach.

The times which are somewhat not undulating are stable times. But the truth about stability is that it fades away. It should never be considered permanent state of affairs. The word status quo is just absence of thought for time being. The world is itself not stable. It's in a constant struggle to keep things as they are but change seeps in anyhow. Life is no different. We keep working from one problem to another. Each problem being uncharted waters which are unstable and dangerous. The struggle never stops and this is what keeps us alive.

Amid all these things what keeps us together is our state of mind. A person who is calm can achieve anything. Calm is a superpower. The superpower is of being unaffected by the turmoil and keeping a sanely positive outlook towards the situation at hand. As mentioned many times earlier, happiness is a choice. Every situation can be looked into through the lens of happiness. A well trained mind is no myth. It's a mind that has mastered calm and is able to look at the brighter side which is nothing but choosing to be happy. It's simple yet complex in its core value.

The flame of a lamp is a good example which can be compared to a human mind. The flame trembles at the touch of the slightest of wind. The very nature of the flame is to give light. Amid all the difficulty it still tries its best to be stable and never deviate from its core value. Its hard but human mind can be trained with experience to struggle yet remain calm. This calm will keep the focus on the core values of life. Life is a continuous process of learning. All the emotions are filled in this journey. But amid all these it's a calm person who keep his/her mind sane enough to look at everything through the glasses of happiness. Never run behind stability. It's an illusion. Try to face everything with a clear intuition which will help you master calm. And when you have mastered calm, you are powerful enough to master living..