A LESSON LEARNED..

"Life is the best teacher". This is an old saying, passed on for generations now. But the significance of this saying has not aged at all. The mindful souls, learn each day because life is full of teaching. And it never stops teaching.

In some of my previous blogs, I have talked about humble living and greed free intentions. Both  are very much interlinked. A person who is humble will never be drawn towards greed. He lives a mindful life and draws energy from the fact that endeavours backed with greed never become successful.

The above is not just a fact but rather a truth. The work which begins with greed to back it will never become successful. Rather it would end badly. Many people must have realised it after facing humiliation and I am no exception. I have too learned it the hard way. Indeed life has unique ways to teach us the lessons for life.

The greed I am talking about is not always monetary in nature. It can be the greed for fame, promotion, attention, social upliftment etc. All such greeds blinds the eyes of mind. We start working in a haste. This haste does not allow us to keep track of our movements. With no mindfulness in our task, we have no control. And at the end, everything falls apart along with our greedy aspirations. Thankfully in my case the loss wasn't that big but a lesson is a lesson when we learn from it. I have indeed learned.

Well humans can never be flawless. One can not guarantee that one will never be greedy. It all depends on the situation and how well one can control one's emotions. But at the end the fact remains that our intention behind every work we do should be pure.

There are two other markers that can guide us back to the right path by indicating to us that we are doing something wrong. They are haste and over imagination.

When our judgement is clouded by greed we try to accomplish everything quickly. This haste to reach the end should be an eye opener that something in what we are doing is wrong. We should stop at that point. Reflect upon our task and then proceed mindfully.

The second is over imagination. Once we notice that we are over excited about the end result of our work and we can not stop imagining all good things at the end, we should immediately stop our work and judge the outcomes we are imagining. If the outcomes reflect greed in any form, which they will, we should immediately take steps to correct our wrong.

We should always learn from other's experiences. This would keep our outlook broad and would enable us to face the challenges posed by life with a mindful approach. You can also go through my other works for more such lessons that would definitely help you live a more mindful life. Here are some suggestions:-

https://archishmansardar.blogspot.com/2020/04/blessing-in-disguise.html

https://archishmansardar.blogspot.com/2020/02/silence-perils-of-excessive-talking.html

https://archishmansardar.blogspot.com/2020/02/enhance-productivity-time-slotting-of.html

DEDICATION..

Dedication can be towards many aspects of life. But according to me dedication towards our goal is a characteristic which we all should develop in our self. The life becomes meaningless if we are not dedicated towards living it. We are on this Earth for a limited period of time and hence it is not wise to waste living life without being dedicated towards the dreams we aspire to make true.

Our world today is full of distractions. We have to play multiple roles and please many around us because that is what our society wants us to do as a social responsibility. This social responsibility does not help us in any way other than making us social. Thus it's wise to limit such distractions. Yes we should do our responsibility towards the society we live in but not at the cost of our aims and aspirations. The only person we should be conscious about is us.  

It may sound selfish to many but in the long run it proves to be true. Our life has been divided into phases. We can distinctly mark each phase apart. These phases are new beginnings where everything around us changes along with our responsibilities. This is a unique phenomenon because in some years time all the things we did right or wrong will not matter any more. But the progress we have made towards our dream goal will matter and be with us till the end. Failure in doing this will result in a great regret for the remainder of life.

Etching out time from all the things we are supposed to do is important to accomplish the things we are supposed to accomplish. It does not harm any one in any way, rather it ensures that we are available for ourselves. This dedication is an absolute necessity if we want to accomplish anything in our life. Everything we dream of can be achieved. It is upto us whether we want to work for it or dream about it only. The second thing that is an absolute necessity to inculcate dedication is learning of art of saying NO. It is not being negative, rather it is a tool that enables us to keep our plate clean so as to add things that are more valuable to us. Sacrificing the present is not advisable. But we should learn the art to delay satisfaction for success in the long run. It is advisable to learn and evolve at every opportunity we have in hand. Our time is limited and hence we can not afford to spend it pleasing other people. Those who are destined to stay will stay. We on the other hand should give our dream the blood and sweat it needs. This dedication coupled with hard work is the only strategy for success known. Dive all in and work. Inculcating dedication in this world full of distractions is not a choice but a necessity for the long run. Believe it and it would be rewarding in ways unimaginable.. 

POWER OVER LIFE..

Turmoil is the reality of life. Life is full of challenges and struggles leading to a destination we all seek. These times of turmoil are the best teachers we have. They are patient and leave us be only when we have grasped the truth it wanted to teach.

The times which are somewhat not undulating are stable times. But the truth about stability is that it fades away. It should never be considered permanent state of affairs. The word status quo is just absence of thought for time being. The world is itself not stable. It's in a constant struggle to keep things as they are but change seeps in anyhow. Life is no different. We keep working from one problem to another. Each problem being uncharted waters which are unstable and dangerous. The struggle never stops and this is what keeps us alive.

Amid all these things what keeps us together is our state of mind. A person who is calm can achieve anything. Calm is a superpower. The superpower is of being unaffected by the turmoil and keeping a sanely positive outlook towards the situation at hand. As mentioned many times earlier, happiness is a choice. Every situation can be looked into through the lens of happiness. A well trained mind is no myth. It's a mind that has mastered calm and is able to look at the brighter side which is nothing but choosing to be happy. It's simple yet complex in its core value.

The flame of a lamp is a good example which can be compared to a human mind. The flame trembles at the touch of the slightest of wind. The very nature of the flame is to give light. Amid all the difficulty it still tries its best to be stable and never deviate from its core value. Its hard but human mind can be trained with experience to struggle yet remain calm. This calm will keep the focus on the core values of life. Life is a continuous process of learning. All the emotions are filled in this journey. But amid all these it's a calm person who keep his/her mind sane enough to look at everything through the glasses of happiness. Never run behind stability. It's an illusion. Try to face everything with a clear intuition which will help you master calm. And when you have mastered calm, you are powerful enough to master living.. 

ME TIME..

All days are not the same. Our energy varies from day to day. The days we accomplish the most are the days when our energies are high. Then there are the sluggish days when we do not feel like doing anything and as a result we accomplish less on those days.

It is normal to have sluggish days in between days filled with hard work. These days are a welcome change to break the monotonous lifestyle which comprises of filling the hours with work to get more out of the 24 hours we have. It becomes an issue only when these days last longer than 24 hours.

To accomplish the goals set in life we need to work hard. There is no other known way to do this. Goals are the big tasks that need our dedication to become true. A small bit of work dedicated towards that goal every single day will ultimately lead to that final destination. These small things that we accomplish everyday have a great impact on our lives and keeps us faithful to the goal. The higher is the bar set for the goal, the more work it needs to be put into it. Thus the days with monotonous routines are valuable and ultimately lead us to our destination.

On the other hand the sluggish days have their own benefits. People often loose themselves in the process to make their dreams come true. Dedication towards one's dream is important but not at the cost of one's true nature. The off days help us to connect to our true selves. This connection is important because it keeps us aware of who we really are and how far we have come. These days are also important because they help us analyse our way of working and make necessary adjustments if needed. Off and sluggish days are the days that are crucial to drive those other days we call as busy days. Adding to that is the fact that life is about living as well as working hard. The part where we live are actually confined to the days that are sluggish. Those little delights that we enjoy and fill us with happiness like reading a book, cuddling in bed, cooking etc are important and keeping a day for relishing them is no fault. 

Enjoying the day and at the same time being sorry to have lived that way does more harm. It is no crime to have me time. In fact it is a crime not having me time because you are intentionally harming yourself. Relish such days when you can breathe and live life to the fullest. As earlier said life is not in living from one point to another rather it's actually these small happy moments that make up one's life and are truly the memories that they would relish later. After reaching at a destination and looking back, the days of struggle keeps us humble but these days of joy give the feeling of a life lived and not lost to the struggles..