SILENCE- THE PERILS OF EXCESSIVE TALKING..

In the present scenario our senses are always overwhelmed by the number of things that demand our attention. All these things compel us to speak and more often than not we end up speaking more than actually needed. The present day human society is very complex. We have to deal with and store immense amount of information.

 In the old times we only had to focus on sustenance and hence talking was strictly exchange of information about food and dangers around. But today speaking is more of a social thing. Exchange of information is a very small part of our daily conversations. When we stop and analyse our speaking habits in a particular day, we would be shocked. The amount of time we spend talking about things that do not have any value is immense. This mindless talking habit of present day has been labelled as gossiping.

Time is valuable for every individual. But we do not realise how much time we waste in a day talking mindlessly. Gossiping not only wastes our time but also drains our energy. Speaking is a human activity and it needs energy. We all have had experienced feeling of dizziness and tiredness after talking too much or too loudly. Unfortunately the art of silence is fast losing its hold in this digital era. A person who tries to control his/her words is branded as shy in this society. This social stigma associated with controlled speaking makes it hard to preach and practise the art of being silent and mindful talking.

Humans are social animals. In the beginning of human society this habit of gossiping among early humans helped them know more about others and in turn helped them unite into a group. We have come a long way now. The positive aspect of gossiping has passed by. Present day it is responsible in spreading hatred and unverifiable informations. There have been human clashes as well as social clashes all due to rumour mongering fueled by gossiping people. To add to these unstable times we have social media as a gossiping tool which bumps up the level of damage rumour mongering can cause.

"AN EMPTY VESSEL SOUNDS MUCH" This saying still stands true. People with worth and character always come across as people who are most silent individuals. They practise mindful speaking and hence do not waste their valuable energy in talking. Yet with this habit they are no less of an influential speaker. It turns out that words of the person who speaks less is more valuable than their talkative counterpart. Silence liberates us. It makes us a better listener and a good observer. All these advantages should be compelling enough for one to practise mindful speaking. After all we have only one life to do great things, why waste it gossiping..

INSPIRATIONS AROUND US..

The Sun is our primary source of  energy. This energy is important directly or indirectly for all life on Earth. This drives the life force within every organism and brings about crucial changes in the non living components around us. Sun has been shining in the same way for billions of years and sustaining life on this planet we call home. It will keep shining in the same way for billions of years to come.

When the sky is covered with clouds we loose the sight of Sun. The intensity of light decreases and life on earth receives a set back. These are temporary and by no means it reduces the capability of Sun to shine and give life a boost on Earth. The Sun never deviates from its duty. After every darkness, light is a must. After gloomy days , sunny days follow. This natural phenomenon has kept inspiring cohort of poets, writers and philosophers. The philosophies of life have not been thought of by aspiring minds, rather they are the results of deep observations of phenomenons that surround us. The inspirations and teachings that we need in life is all around us. It's just the eye for detail that is necessary to draw from them.

A person who draws inspiration from the above will gain the urge to bring some changes into his/her life. The Sun teaches us to be bright, dutiful, diligent, caring, silent and most importantly resistant to temporary set backs and experiences. The clouds come and go, but they do not influence the Sun's ability in anyway. Similarly a person should not loose his/her path due to temporary set backs. These times of turmoil are temporary and has no power on someone who is fixed and sincere with a clear thinking. The other characteristics like duty, diligence etc are important milestones of one's career. In the long run, only those succeed who have been able to draw inspirations and enriched their souls. We do not need to dig into books for inspiration.They are no doubt great sources of inspiration but are well below those from which we can draw inspiration via experience. Souls are eternal similar to the wisdom around us. We just need to have the urge and the eye for detail in life's inspirational processes to draw from them..

CRAB MENTALITY..

We all have in our life time come across people who have duality on their minds. They are the individuals who show and speak about something but end up doing the complete opposite. When such people are present in someone's life then its a warning for that person. These are the individuals who should be decluttered from ones life. In the present era duality is growing. People have hidden motives for almost everything they do. Apart from the hidden motives its their interest that plays another important role in their life. It's not wrong to be self centered but being that at the expense of another is not a good human karma.

Jealousy, competition and many such feelings are the core reasons behind this crap mentality. They ruin the society and corrupt the young minds that come in contact with such individuals. Competition is good but only when its a healthy competition. When this leads to corrupt means to bring out one's intentions leading to the harm of others ,then it's wrong. Healthy competition makes people grow while the vice versa also happens to be true and in fact is the most common phenomenon in today's society.

To add to all this is the crab mentality. It's a literary term that has originated from real biological behaviour of crabs. When crabs are placed in a cramped space, they try to climb out. The one who succeeds is not let to climb out by the others who keep pulling it back down. This is called the crab mentality. In our society people compete with one another and most often then not they have the crab mentality in place. They do not let the one who is doing good to go ahead or help him in doing so. Rather they pull him/her backwards and play tricks to get that person demotivated so that he/she fails in the endeavour. This is common and is the root cause of stagnant growth in many societies and even negative growth in some. 

The day people do away with this mentality will be the day when society changes for good. This requires a mindset change which is difficult to achieve but not impossible. Helping each other grow will in turn lead to a much sustainable development. If such unhealthy competition exists then growth will remain stagnant and the ultimate sufferers will be the people themselves. Let go of this crab mentality and work together which will not only help grow leadership skills but also will create some amazing relations that can be adored life long..

SILENCE AS A HABIT..

It is an old saying that an empty vessel sounds much. People can derive various meanings of this proverb. But we should focus on the very essence of this saying i.e silence. Silence is a term that has been in the backdrop for quite sometime. The society has developed as well as the surrounding. This era is the era of industrialisation and urbanisation. These so called metropolices have every essentials as well as luxuries. But they lack silence which is a necessity for the well being of mind. 

Silence is a real luxury now a days. People often seek peace of mind by moving away from the hustle. This explains the so called urban to rural migration that is often considered a step back in life today. Silence in the surrounding is very important and can really create wonders but silence on lips is a whole different story.

Today silence has been attributed to shyness. People are drawn to gossips and other futile conversations because it helps them to mingle and get accepted in their immediate surrounding. This is wrong and has impacts which often go unnoticed. Scientifically speaking, the very act of speaking drains our body of energy because various organs and muscles have to be pulled in to create speech. This energy could have been used otherwise in certain productive activities that can really influence the life individuals live.

Mindless gossips are a new trend. This begins at the teenage and remains with an individual all of his/her life. People waste their valuable time and energy in them. This energy could have been channeled in order to get more out of life. People who are silent are really blessed. They have some unique characteristics that the others lack. Once a person becomes silent he/she becomes more aware of the surrounding. The idea of nature speaks that we often come across is well explained by a person who has achieved the brilliance in silence. A person who has mastered silence has surely mastered self control because he/she can efficiently control the urge of speaking. Silence also opens new doors to look at our surrounding because the energy saved activates the essential senses that makes a person better observer and listener. To clarify this we can pool in the example of deaf and dumb persons who have heightened abilities because they have essential energy saved. Things and behaviour speak, we don't always need to hear to know about them, thoughtful observations are enough.

Heightened abilities or not, silence is very rewarding. The time and energy saved can be directed to carry on productive activities that can add meaning to life. Sad reality is that people who have mastered this ability are looked down upon and are considered non social. They are left out and thus have to drive themselves on their own. Many give in to this social discrimination but one who has really mastered self control keeps his/her way of life intact. This life is not to please someone else rather to find meaning in one's own existence. 

Path of silence is difficult but the end result is very rewarding. Any habit as explained by many scientific researchers take 21 days to become embedded into ones life. Silence as a way of life is a habit and is worth the try. Yes this can result in social disconnections but the ones that were meant to stay would stay. Its the universal truth. Last blog explained about decluttering ones life. Silence has the power to declutter your life of the individuals that were not good for you. Take the challenge and give it a go. You would not be dissapointed for sure.In addition to that you would become one of the very few to have gained mastery in self control. Now that's something! Silence is really an answer to many problems which demands dedication and gives extensive value to life..